Groom doesn’t want to and doesn’t want to dance

Your groom doesn’t want an opening dance and generally doesn’t want to dance at the wedding party? But is the opening dance at the wedding a must-have for you? This is not so rare, because after all, not everyone is a born dancer. For many, however, the classic opening dance at the wedding is an absolute must-have. A difficult situation, for which there is a solution. At least if you are willing to compromise.

If the groom doesn’t want to do an opening dance, then he definitely has his reasons for doing so. Before we go into this further, we would like to introduce you to various compromises and alternatives for the opening dance on the day of the wedding.

• Opening dance together with others
• Shorten dance times significantly
• Choreography with bridesmaids and maid of honor
• Father daughter dance
• Solo choreography for your partner

Find out why

There could be several reasons why the partner does not want to dance in the opening dance. Often it is the uncertainty of not being able to do the said dance style. Sometimes there is another reason that your partner doesn’t want to dance. Maybe he just doesn’t like being the center of attention and being watched by everyone.

As in later marriage, communication is particularly important here. Since it can sometimes be a strong conflict topic, try to create a relaxed atmosphere and talk to your partner about it in peace.

Groom cannot dance

If your conversation reveals that your greatest concern is the lack of dance skills, then you can work on it. Of course, a few dance lessons in advance of the wedding can help. Depending on how open you are, you could attend a dance short especially for newlyweds and meet like-minded people. But there is also the possibility to book private lessons in the dance school.

Asks for a trial course / trial month at the dance school first. If you don’t like this at all, then you may not have to pay for the entire course right away. The most important thing is that you both have fun doing it.

Your partner doesn’t want to be the center of attention

If your partner does not like to be the center of attention and would like to be observed and perhaps examined by everyone, then there are also suitable solutions. Please ask your best man and partner or invited couples to take part in your opening dance. With several couples on the dance floor, your partner may not feel that they are being watched.

Sometimes a smoke machine can also help. This not only creates a beautiful effect in combination with lights, but also perhaps creates a feeling of a visual barrier.

Compromises for the wedding dance

A long and particularly great opening dance with the bride and groom is not a must-have at the wedding celebration. Try to find a compromise together that you are both happy with. Make sure, however, that the compromise found is really fair for both sides.

How about shortening the opening dance by the time? About 30 to 60 seconds with a few basic steps and one turn are sufficient. Then maybe you could ask the guests to come onto the dance floor.

Alternatives to dancing with the groom

If your partner doesn’t want an opening dance at all, then look for other alternatives. A father-daughter dance at the opening is ideal for this. But you can also hire your uncle, brother or other family member for it.

If you are an enthusiastic dancer yourself, but your groom is not, then plan a surprise for him. Perhaps your bridesmaids and your maid of honor would like to rehearse a choreography with you and implement the heartfelt wish of the opening dance in this way.

Of course, you can also do a solo choreography for your partner on the floor. So that you are not all alone on the dance floor, your partner can sit on a chair in the middle.

Omit opening dance?

As mentioned earlier, an opening dance is absolutely not a must-have at the wedding. If none of the options presented are suitable for you as the bridal couple, then just leave out the opening dance. After dinner, your DJ can simply open the dance floor himself at the wedding and ask your guests to come onto the dance floor. With the right wedding music, you will definitely get a great atmosphere at the wedding.